From Misfit to King or Queen
The Seamless Way – From Misfit to King or Queen
January 10, 2109
By Beth Blair
It seems, at least in my mind, I am a kindred spirit to the misfits on the Island of Misfit Toys. I have felt for much of my working life, and maybe even all my life, that either I have been in the wrong job, circle, school, city or even century. How I perceive things and aspire to things is very different than most. Recently, my son had me listen to a song, saying, “this is your theme song, Mom.” It is called “Kings and Queens” by Thirty Seconds to Mars. He continued to say, “it’s about leaders and you’re one.”
I don’t consider myself to be a leader, or even wanting to be one. I do, however, tend to take charge of situations or to be judge and jury where common sense is lacking. It may be my astrology, my biology or my purpose on this spinning rock orbiting the sun. I tend to bring order, say that challenging thing (“Just Sayin’”) or shine the light on the problem. A friend recently described me saying, “you are like the driver on the back of the ladder firetruck.” He explained that he sees that, I may not be leading from the front, but I move people along, guiding from the back. Truthfully, the image that came to mind when he said this was, not the brave firefighter vehicle, but more the clown car. Somehow, as the image of this truck comes barreling down the street of my mind, sirens blaring, with me steering from the back, I imagine myself with my legs flapping in the wind, holding on to the steering wheel for dear life, I make that vital turn at the last second. Doesn’t feel like a leader to me.
When my son had me listen to the song, it was at a chaotic moment, dogs milling around in excitement and too many other things going on to really appreciate it. When I listened to it again, several days later, it had a haunting awakening affect…kind of like trying to remember an awesome dream upon waking. The song lyrics called forward…“we are the kings and queens of promise.” There is a minuscule margin between being a misfit and a “king and queen of promise.” The next line in the song explains, “we were the victims of ourselves.” That is the minuscule margin. That is how we keep our brilliance locked away, like the prisoner in the tower, wilting. And, like attracts like, until…
Like the words from the poem, “The Journey” by Mary Oliver, “One day you finally knew what you had to do, and began, though the voices around you kept shouting their bad advice– though the whole house began to tremble and you felt the old tug at your ankles. “Mend my life!”” Perspective is a beautiful tool. Sometimes the “gods and goddesses” and the “kings and queens of promise” awaken in the heart of the so-called misfit and you finally know…even with the shouts of bad advice…even with the judgments of others, even with the judgments of yourself…you answer the call, you get out of your own way and your heart opens to the possibilities and the promise of something more.
These types of awakens happen in a millisecond, in a minuscule moment, in a word. Now, I have heard myself say several times this week, “it’s not a light switch, change takes time.” This seems to be an encoded message. Maybe, it is a switch…maybe it is that easy…maybe I am one step, one breath away from claiming my inheritance as a king or queen and being rescued from the island. The answer is simple and challenging…stop being victims of ourselves. My thoughts and judgments of myself as a misfit has kept me chained, imprisoned and a little hopeless, even as I support, encourage and help others. The island is of my own making. I have been calling out to other misfits like a beacon, “come and commiserate and wallow with me.” Tell me your sad story…but I never tell mine…that is too risky, to vulnerable and too weak! It is beyond reproach to voice what has been lingering inside. Here I will risk…here I will share a little of what is inside, as a request, as a calling out for assistance, as a request of the gods, angels, and those of promise…I want to have mind-blowing conversations and experiences! I don’t want to exist in the mundane. I want to create a life worth living of levity, promise, empowerment and change. I don’t want to drive from the back of the truck. I want my circle of influence to wake the f**k up and see their majesty too or I want a richer, more vibrant circle. Put up or shut up! Claim your birthright! Clean up the planet! Stop seeing how we are so different! Appreciate that each life on this spinning rock matters, not just certain ones! Dare to, not only dream, live and breath it into existence. We may feel that “we are children of a lesser god, between heaven and hell,” but we are the ones that created that narrative. I am choosing to flip the switch! What about you? Are you a king or queen of promise?
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