The Seamless Way, Not Always Seen
November 1, 2018
The healing process, from anything, is not so easy. It could be from an illness, an injury, a broken relationship, a loss…Think of the many things, we as humans, heal from or in. The list is endless, and the task is not easy. What I have found, in my personal healing process, is that help is always there. You just ask! That’s the tricky part, the sticky wicket! Who do you ask? How do you ask? What do you ask?
For me, the healing was from chronic back pain. Three degenerative discs in my low back. At least, that was the physical issue. I have shared this story many times. I was in my 30s with a spine of an “old” 65+ year old woman. I could not roll over in bed without pain. I couldn’t even touch my toes. I wasn’t sleeping well, to say the least. I was angry and irritable from pain. I was a mother and step-mother and had things to do. Yet the pain stopped me, or so I let it. Where was the help? Who was going to help me with my pain? I went to doctors, chiropractors, acupuncturist. I tried ice and heat, rest and limited my activities as best I could with a busy and active family. None of this helped. No one seemed to understand the level of my suffering. They hadn’t been through it, not like this. Not like me or my suffering. So again, where is the help?
The help came in the form of a flyer for a class in Tai Chi. The names of the teachers came through conversations with a friend. Nothing very direct. I had to decode the help! And, I will admit…I was a slow learner at that point. I didn’t hear the help or see it. I honestly think, I wasn’t ready, at first, to let go of this pain. It had become part of me. Of who I was. Of how others saw me and knew me. How could I let this go? Well, I did…slowly! I finally went to the Tai Chi class. It was overly simple in the movements. It was too slow for my liking, at first. It was curious. I only did the moves during class. I didn’t practice at home. Over the next year of classes, my back pain went away, and my range of motion was restored. I could sleep. My anger was reduced (this was a deeper healing that took more time). I was discovering a side of myself that I never knew. I was creating a new person. And, I liked her!
So, how do you decode the message of help? Do we all have to find a Tai Chi class? It wouldn’t hurt (See my class schedule 😉)! The seamless way is not so easy. We must be willing to face what is inside that wants to be healed. Healing doesn’t always mean cure. I have experienced this Truth with many clients, family members and friends. Healing is about becoming who we are meant to be. That human being… The state of BEING is a topic for another time and another blog. When we connect with that deep sense of being, that deep sense of who we are and how we are showing up…. stuff happens…stuff heals.
So here is the raw truth of my healing journey with chronic back pain. I was afraid to move, to be myself, to do what I was put here to do. I didn’t think people (my family and friends) would understand. At that point in my life, I didn’t understand either…so how could I expect them to? When I face MY truth, I started the healing process. When I embraced MY truth, I found MY SEAMLESS WAY. For me, it is still not always easy, but it is SEAMLESS because it comes from listening to the helpers and MY Truth. What is your SEAMLESS WAY? May I help?
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